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Society|Wed, Mar. 19 2008 02:22 PM EDT

Monogamy in Marriage Being Questioned

By Katherine T. Phan|Christian Post Reporter

The confessions of a New York governor on his extra-marital affairs are brewing up a cultural battle questioning monogamy in marriage.

Ex-governor Elliot Spitzer recently admitted to committing adultery with not one, as originally reported, but several women.

While the bulk of reports on the scandal has centered on the flawed policy on prostitution, a sizable amount is making the case that while his actions were dishonorable, they were expected as nature would claim.

The New York Times ran an article under the headline "In Most Species, Faithfulness a Fantasy" on Tuesday, attempting to make the case that sexual promiscuity is only natural.

"It’s been done by many other creatures, tens of thousands of other species, by male and female representatives of every taxonomic twig on the great tree of life," the article argues. "Sexual promiscuity is rampant through out nature, and true faithfulness a fond fantasy."

USA Today also revealed its take on the matter, publishing an article that capped off with the perspective of an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Washington who suggests that the act of engaging with multiple partners is "evolutionary human tendency."

Dr. Bill Maier, vice president and psychologist in residence at Focus on the Family, argued that humans should not be compared to the behavior observed in the reportedly "tens of thousands of other species."

"'The Times' article makes a huge philosophical assumption," he said, according to Focus on the Family Action's CitizenLink, "that human beings are simply another animal species, and therefore it should be no surprise when they engage in behavior common to other members of the animal kingdom."

The "Christian worldview offers a radically different perspective" on the matter of marriage and fidelity, Maier added.

"Humans are made in the very image of God, actually reflecting aspects of His character and nature," he stated.

"Unlike rodents and flatworms, we are capable of rational thought and moral decision-making."

Jim Mueller, founder of Growthtrac Ministries, which ministers to married couples, also expressed qualms with the articles' comparison between humans and animals.

"Sorry. The sexual preferences of the family dog doesn't set the monogamy standard for married men," he told The Christian Post.

"We are held to a higher standard. We are capable of rational decision making and can choose to respect our spouses with the promises we made at the altar," said Mueller, who has been married to his wife for over 30 years.

He concluded that "adultery is a choice."

A recent study by USA Today/Gallup Poll surveying attitudes on marriage and infidelity found that more than half of Americans, or 54 percent, know someone who has an unfaithful spouse.

But there is a significant difference between whether Americans know instances of infidelity and whether they consider it acceptable.

In a different study released earlier this month by Ellison Research, more than 8 in 10 Americans said they believe adultery is a sin. Adultery topped the list of what respondents thought of as sinful behaviors – above racism, drugs, and abortion.

Meanwhile, a 2007 study by Pew Research Center found that 93 percent of Americans believe faithfulness is the key to a successful marriage.

Marriage is a union whereby man and woman serve and honor each other with God at the center, according to Mueller.

"God's plan for marriage is to provide companionship, to prevent sexual immorality, and to provide children with loving parents. It's the glue that holds communities together and builds the next generation," he said.

Mueller also emphasized that marriage is about commitment.

"God is the mastermind of marriage. When a man and woman enter into marriage, it's for a lifetime."

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  • Fri May 16, 2008 7:10 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 1

    All married men will cheat at some point if given the chance. ESPECIALLY the uber-religious ones... because their wives are likely to be boring in the sack.

  • 1man »
    Tue Mar 25, 2008 8:30 pm Agree: 2   Disagree: 0

    you know i never once saw an animal have or give an abortion.

  • Thu Mar 20, 2008 12:26 pm Agree: 3   Disagree: 0

    Yep!, sin is an entirely natural state for man.
    You must be born again.

  • Thu Mar 20, 2008 8:14 am Agree: 3   Disagree: 0

    This study should be no surprise when we live in a culture where sin and immorality have such good reputations and are celebrated openly. I regret to say I have lived some of that life so I know whereof I speak.

    The truth is, sex is like a drug and like any other drug, is beneficial when used properly. When abused, it has all the addictive and destructive properties of any other dangerous drug.

    The Bible warns us against immorality not because God wants to wall us off from sexual pleasure, but because God in his wisdom knows the destruction that sexual immorality causes. Only true repentance and the guiding of the Holy Spirit can help you abstain from self-destructive practices. In a nation that doesn't know the real moral teachings of Jesus, we are only reaping what we sow.

  • Thu Mar 20, 2008 7:38 am Agree: 2   Disagree: 0

    You know...

    Many species in nature do a lot of things that we would never dream of. Eat their young for example. Are we to use the behavior of animals to justify anything we want to do?? In that case stealing becomes legitamite as well as killing someone because you want their job.

  • Thu Mar 20, 2008 3:06 am Agree: 1   Disagree: 1

    The Application of the evolutionary theory that places primates as a common ancestory with humans is the mark of the beast.

    http://evolutionfacts.blogspot.com

  • Thu Mar 20, 2008 3:00 am Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    http://evolutionfacts.blogspot.com

  • Thu Mar 20, 2008 2:20 am Agree: 1   Disagree: 0

    Hey jessephillips,
    I agree with you in that one will know one by their fruits. I personally do not believe in evolutionary psychology, but the one thing evolution and psychology does do, it proves the scriptures to be true. In this case it states that the act is human nature. We as Christians know this as sin-nature it just has been worded different here. I have learned to keep an open mind with secularists and watch them prove the scriptures to be true while their attempt is to offer an alternative to God and His ways. Thanks for the post.

  • Wed Mar 19, 2008 5:03 pm Agree: 3   Disagree: 0

    This article from the NYT is exceedingly troubling, yet not. The non-Christian culture is becoming less biblical (this is to be expected, like Romans 1), and this makes that clear. I think, in a way, it's good, because now there will be a clearer difference between Christians and the culture.

    We need not condemn them, but rather show them that God's way works better. Seriously, evolutionary psychology is ridiculous!

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