PORTLAND, Ore. - The inability of the church to discuss a topic that has become taboo among many Christians is one of the root causes why millions of Americans are leaving the church and never to return, says one author.
There are "Christians who have experientially lost their faith" but have no one to turn to since church culture shuns the topic, David Sanford said Thursday.
It's not that these Christians lost their salvation, but that they have lost their faith in the Bible, the church and Christian beliefs, said the author, who was addressing attendants at the annual convention of the Evangelical Press Association in Portland, Ore.
Over 31 million Americans are part of this exodus from the church, Sanford said, citing a Barna Group study.
"Any business that is losing 31 million customers is going out of business," he told a room of Christian journalists and editors. "[It] is the greatest crisis among Christians today in the U.S., Canada and some parts of Europe…We must break the silence in our publications.”
In his upcoming book, If God Disappears: 9 Faith Wreckers and What to Do About Them, Sanford details nine reasons he uncovered through listening to stories of those who exited the church on why Christians abandon faith.
Most of the time, Christians leave because of a "wounded" experience. They either deliberately walk away due to questions and doubts that go unanswered or they feel that God has walked away or "disappeared," observed Sanford.
The author noted that he too "experientially" lost his faith a few years back when he encountered a series of unfortunate news, including his daughter being diagnosed with endometriosis – a condition that affects the womb.
"I felt God was pounding and pounding and pounding on me," he said.
Although Sanford at the time was serving in multiple Christian positions – vice president of Publishing and Internet Ministries for the Luis Palau Evangelistic Association and a member of Evangelical Press Association – he said his faith was discouraged to a point where he couldn't even say a prayer before a meal.
But looking back at his situation, Sanford said he realized that God used the crisis in his faith as a "hinge" to re-work his wrong theology and allowed his faith to be more vibrant than before.
He has since applied his experience to his ministry where he comes alongside those who have experientially lost their faith and walks beside them in their journey.
Speaking from experience, he believes Christians who return back to the faith can become a phenomenal force to revitalize churches.
"When you come back, you come back for good. You come back with a passion" and reach out to others who have left the church, he said.
In an effort to raise awareness on why many leave the Christian faith, Sanford called on the Christian media to help put this understated issue before churches.
"Otherwise at EPA in three or four more years, it's going to be 37 million."
If God Disappears is slated for release in the fall.
Comments
On the one hand, I know of a business fellow who gives 90% of his personal income to mission type work. He's still quite rich as God has blessed his hearts commitment. Still, Jesus had no home of His own. Paul accepted gifts from some and rejected from others depending on the hearts of the people. By world standards our homeless people here in the USA live better than most people in 3rd world countries.
If I have what I need I will be content. I have had little and plenty. God is still faithful. Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks on the heart. I feel pity for those who have the big house but their hearts are run down, cold and empty.
As for some of these "send me money" people...they have their reward.
I was struck by the author's phrase she felt God was pounding on her. This is the point where a person will make a real decision for Christ. The issues will vary, but we will all hit that wall at some point in our lives. Unfortunately, many Christians spend their entire Christian lives trying to avoid this and even see it is the church's duty to help protect them from ever having to face any crisis. We are not unlike the Israelites who complained and longed to return to slavery in Egypt and fought being taken in to the wilderness to be tested and to learn how to trust. I have a feeling this is why many men fail to connect with the church. They long to be set free and rightly sense the church will not help them in crossing the Jordan.
I'm honestly not sure that I would place the focus on "wounded experiences". I would be more inclined to believe that the church simply lacks the experiencing of God.
The Holy Spirit tends to work "outside the box", outside of the routine.
I believe they call it not being Religious.
'the immature who desire big house, nice cars & condos'... what about pastors, who are the messengers of god, point to sin, then blames those who are suffering on sin. where do believers get these 'immature & childish' teachings? pastors & televangelist. also, pastors, televangelist' average salary is $7800/ month with health benefits, nice cars & nice houses.
yes that is true. and what is worst, instead of the 'questions being answered' self righteous, arrogant christians ( especially pastors) give a 'snake when asking for a fish', they also add weight on people's shoulders, blame everything for the cause of suffering on sin & the same believers who cast the first stone will be first people who break the rules.
And, gig, you're right about the membership mentality. Churches here boast their membership numbers which include those in the graveyard! To be a member of our church you have to go through a 2 hour class on what being a member of a church is (starting with being saved). Also, members have to serve somewhere in the church and be part of a small group or ministry. In short, members do the work of the ministry. Our membership is about half of our weekly attendance and it has to be renewed each year as a committment to the church. Our small groups are where the connection takes place.
Even still, we have the immature who have desires for the big house, nice car and condo. When you get right down to it, the smaller churches here are not really all that different. They're just more 'spiritual' about their immaturity. The megachurch is just a more concentrated version of what I have seen in the smaller churches for decades.