Updated 04:40 pm.EST, Sat November 21, 2009

Opinion|Sun, Oct. 26 2008 06:09 AM EDT

What's Really at Stake in the Gay Marriage Debate? Part Three

By R. Albert Mohler, Jr.|Christian Post Guest Columnist

"We're talking about really refraining from using things like, husband-wife, boyfriend-girlfriend, those kind of things, and just say 'partner,'" explains Robin Sinks. She is the health education specialist for the Long Beach Unified School District in California. The point she was making is clear enough. The legalization of same-sex marriage will require a comprehensive change in our language.

Language is, as we now know, integral to a culture. In fact, anthropologists such as the influential Clifford Geertz refer to human culture as a "cultural-lingustic system." The language and the culture are inseparable. Each influences the other, and together they produce an entire system of meaning.

Until now, at least, words like "husband" and "wife" have been essential to understanding our culture. Some words have been inseparable, forming comprehensive sets of meaning together. "Marriage" goes with "husband" and "wife." "Boyfriend" goes with "girlfriend."

With the legalization of same-sex marriage, the only acceptable word is "partner." Marriage licenses will speak of the union of "Partner A" with "Partner B." There will be no use for terms such as "wife" or "husband."

Robin Sinks made her statement with reference to what the normalization of same-sex marriage would mean for the public schools. As MSNBC reports, the battle over same-sex marriage will reach the schools.

"The opposing sides have debated what, if anything, schools must teach about marriage now that gays have the right to wed," the network explains.

California mandates that schools teach about marriage, if the schools teach sex education. Surprisingly perhaps, the vast majority of California school districts do not teach sex education. Nevertheless, one state judge recently ruled that the districts "may require" such courses.

California is "ground zero" on this issue because the state's voters will face "Proposition 8" on the November 4 ballot. This proposition, if approved by voters, would amend the California constitution to limit marriage to the union of a man and a woman. The measure is an effort to reverse last May's decision by the California Supreme Court to legalize same-sex marriage.

Given the state's huge population and cultural influence, all eyes are now on California. But so should be our ears. Do we hear a shift in the language coming? If so, the language will change far more than vocabulary and word usage.

Civilizations are built on careful and necessary distinctions. As an institution, marriage has been defined throughout history as a heterosexual union. Marriage is so central to our civilization that its related words have become equally essential. Words like "husband" and "wife" have been necessary to understanding our stories, our laws, our families, our social arrangements, and our aspirations. Transform marriage into a homosexual institution, and the vocabulary no longer works.

The effects of this linguistic transformation are most acute among the young. Language acquisition is among the most essential tasks of childhood - and this includes everything from early babbling to vocabulary lists at school.

When children acquire a language without the words "husband" or "wife," they acquire a cultural knowledge that betrays the subversion of the central institution of civilization itself. "Partner" is just not enough to carry the meaning of marriage. Will "husband" and "wife" soon be relegated to the dust-bin of obsolete words? If so, the loss will leave us speechless.

Adapted from R. Albert Mohler Jr.'s weblog at www.albertmohler.com.
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R. Albert Mohler, Jr. is president of The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky. For more articles and resources by Dr. Mohler, and for information on The Albert Mohler Program, a daily national radio program broadcast on the Salem Radio Network, go to www.albertmohler.com. For information on The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, go to www.sbts.edu. Send feedback to mail@albertmohler.com. Original Source: www.albertmohler.com.
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  • Sat Nov 01, 2008 5:25 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    mike22685, but also as I shared at another statistically male homosexual partners are known to have many multiple partners and this is even reported from the homosexual community as a problem and one of the major reasons for the high rate of HIV/AIDS among male homosexuals in our nation.

  • Sat Nov 01, 2008 5:21 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    mike22685, I don't pretend at all I am well aware of the fact that divorce is reeling havoc in our society and as a Pastor I've offered numerous classes and activities to try and offset that in the marriages of those in my congregations.

  • Sat Nov 01, 2008 12:24 pm Agree: 1   Disagree: 0

    Believer, again, you pretend that statistic is radically different from the straight community. There are plenty of straight folks who cheat just as much, and there are plenty of gays who commit to a partner for life monogamously. Its a shame someone like you who claims to be such a man of God relies on smear campaigns to try and prove his point.

  • Thu Oct 30, 2008 5:32 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 1

    jcn, marriage in the Bible is not simply defined as two people it is defined as one man and one woman for life. Yes, divorce rates are about the same among church goers as among non-church goers but God's Word still calls divorce a sin and very few truly born-again believers are trying to justify divorce. But considering how many homosexuals have multiple partners one can only imagine what the divorce rate will look like if same-sex marriage becomes the law of the land. Do you really think a ceremony or a piece of paper will keep them from having multiple partners?

  • Wed Oct 29, 2008 3:00 pm Agree: 1   Disagree: 0

    Artm are you God to say he approves or not. Much of what is spoken about are peoples ideas and thoughts about what
    God is like. And you can see that for many God is angry and frustrated with us. A total different picture from what Scripture portrays.

    Come on the divorce rate in the church is higher than out in the world and almost all is not the kind of divorce Jesus Ok'd. And it is interesting that the states that are more conservative and against gay marriage are the ones with higher divorce rates, infidelity and various addictions including food. When will the church stop reacting and judging two people loving one another? Marriaage will still be defined between two people and there will still be the freedom for parents to opt out if they do not approve of teachings or outings. As well any church can still continue to approve or disapprove of gay marriage due to their views and that has no legal issues involved.

  • artm »
    Mon Oct 27, 2008 2:22 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 1

    This is about more than just the right to use the term Bride and Groom.

    It has to do with putting your fist in the face of God. When a Nation supports that which God has rejected and condemned, it is to chalenge God.

    There is the need for repentance, from those who defy God and His Word. And by those Christians who ignor the plain teaching of Scripture concerning homosexuality.

    Yes pray, and at the sametime, " Repent ". And know that God is not pleased with this Nation.

  • Mon Oct 27, 2008 1:12 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    Whatever the case, two people not only didn't find it inappropriate, but they gave you a "thumbs up", believer.I never got a chance to read it either, unfortunately.

  • Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:22 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    mike22685, I wonder why too!!!!!

  • Sun Oct 26, 2008 7:02 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    Not sure why believer was flagged, I didn't even get to read what he posted.

  • Sun Oct 26, 2008 8:27 am Agree: 8   Disagree: 3

    If marriage is central to our civilization, then I guess with the 50% divorce rate our civilization is 50% in the can. People will not stop introducing as my husband or wife, in fact this man completely ignored the article posted on Christian Post that said bride and groom were still being used on marriage certificates (you just checked off which one you were.) This article is not rooted in fact, but in fear.

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