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Survey: Parents Rely on Personal Experience Over Biblical Guidance

By Elena Garcia|Christian Post Reporter

Although most parents say they are trying to improve their parenting skills, few look to the Bible or church for guidance, a new study shows.

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    Nicole and Justin Hertel read with their 15-month-old son Damien, on Saturday, Jan. 31, 2009 in their Hebron, Ky. home.

A majority of parents (60 percent) heavily rely on their own experiences growing up for parenting guidance but only one-fifth say they receive a lot of guidance from sacred text such as the Bible or Koran, the latest study by LifeWay Research found. Even fewer parents (15 percent) look to church as a source of guidance for parenting.

The vast majority (96 percent) agree they consistently try to be better parents but more than 6 in 10 completely ignore parenting seminars and over half don't care for books by religious parenting experts, according to the study.

"Parents claim they are trying hard to be better parents but they are not welcoming outside guidance or advice," said Scott McConnell, associate director of LifeWay Research, the research arm of LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention.

"The only source of advice that a majority of parents use a lot is their own experience. It’s as if parents are collectively reverting to a popular toddler saying, ‘I will do it myself!'" said McConnell, co-author of a new book called The Parent Adventure.

The study also found that few (14 percent) say they are familiar with biblical teaching on parenting. Among Christian parents, those with evangelical beliefs are more familiar than Protestant parents on the Bible's parenting advice, 52 to 27 percent. Only 7 percent of Catholic parents are very familiar on what the Holy Book says about parenting.

"Christians are routinely neglecting biblical guidance and encouragement in their parenting today, relying instead on their own personal experience," McConnell commented.

When it comes to the home environment, around 7 in 10 parents describe it as supporting, positive, encouraging and active. However, an estimated 6 in 10 do not find their home environment peaceful, nearly 5 in 10 do not describe it as relaxed, and around 4 in 10 do not say it is joyful.

They study also showed that although parents spend time with their families on a daily basis, many do not engage in spiritual activities.

A modest majority of parents (57 percent) usually eat dinner together with their families everyday and 45 percent indicate they watch television together each day.

Prayer is a more common family activity than religious study, with 53 percent of parents indicating they pray together at least once monthly compared to 31 percent saying they hold religious devotionals or studies together at least monthly.

Over 80 percent of parents say they have an excellent family life but 30 percent rate their family's spiritual life as only fair or poor.

Overall, 92 percent of parents say they need encouragement but not many receive it from the Bible or church, the study showed.

Approximately 38 percent of parents who attend religious worship services weekly say they do not receive any encouragement from reading the Bible and 24 percent report not being encouraged from church.

Among Christian parents, Catholics (85 percent) are more likely than Protestants (43 percent) to not find encouragement in the Bible. Catholic parents (71 percent) are also more likely than Protestant parents (39 percent) to say church is not a source of encouragement.

Lifeway Research findings are based on a national survey conducted among 1,200 parents with children under 18 at home.

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  • Fri Jun 12, 2009 5:20 pm Agree: 2   Disagree: 0

    Flagged as inappropriate. show Daniel Paul wrote: "Crime and our prision population keep rising...any questions?" Actually, crime in general, and violent crime in particular, are decreasing! :) "Despite ongoing rumors to the contrary, crime is actually decreasing in America." http://socialissues.wiseto.com/Articles/FO3020630015/ "FBI: Violent crime decreasing" http://www.usatoday.com/news/states/2008-09-15-FBI-crime_N.htm hide

  • Fri Jun 12, 2009 5:14 pm Agree: 2   Disagree: 0

    Flagged as inappropriate. show idietolive wrote: "God cursing, disrespecting, lawless sodomites, who do not care about anyone but themselves" Sodomites?!? Oh, you mean *these* Sodomites? The people who oppose welfare and universal health care! "Behold, this was the guilt of your sister Sodom: she and her daughters had arrogance, abundant food and careless ease, but she did not help the poor and needy." - Ezekiel 16:49 10Hear the word of the LORD, ye rulers of Sodom; give ear unto the law of our God, ye people of Gomorrah. 16Wash you, make you clean; put away the evil of your doings from before mine eyes; cease to do evil; 17Learn to do well; seek judgment, relieve the oppressed, judge the fatherless, plead for the widow. - Isaiah 1:10,16-17 hide

  • Fri Jun 12, 2009 3:34 pm Agree: 1   Disagree: 0

    The truth is flagged because God forbid, it remain, and the people turn from the error of their way.

  • Fri Jun 12, 2009 3:31 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    DP you should be a comedian, your first comment was hilarious. I honestly wouldn't want to trust myself or my doctrine in raising my children. I am a sinner and prone to error. The Word of God is infallible and did a pretty good job in raising our forefathers, and I think it would do a pretty good job in raising children.

    Raise up a children in the way they should go, and when they get older, they will not depart from it.

    Hmmmmm lets see. Our nation is becoming a nation of baby killing, God cursing, disrespecting, lawless sodomites, who do not care about anyone but themselves. Our country is becoming a sore among the nations. We have played the harlot with the God of this world and judgement's coming! Coming this summer.

  • Sun Mar 01, 2009 9:15 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    Unfortunately, we have a tendency to follow our parents, even in the wrong direction and this isn't separate from parenting either. We follow our parents whether good or bad in how we parent. How many of our parents used Scripture to raise us (outside of trying to make us feel guilty?)? Most parent from boomers down haven't darkened the doors of a church yet and have been taught to follow their heart. What else do we expect?

    As for Focus and other great and godly helpers in taking doctrine and making sure it is understood practically, THANK YOU! Out churches are not much different from the world around us and we wonder why nobody listens to God's "advice" for us? We should look in the mirror first...

    Grace and Peace,
    Jim

  • Fri Feb 27, 2009 3:37 pm Agree: 3   Disagree: 0

    Oh very sad thing. I post the truth about the condition of America and I get flagged twice? LOL Typical.

  • Fri Feb 27, 2009 3:33 pm Agree: 4   Disagree: 1

    Isn't it odd that on the same day this report makes it to CP, so does an article announcing the resigning of Dr. James Dobson. When my wife and I were getting ready to have our son we attended PET and what a total joke that was, but at the same time we heard about a new ministry that called itself Focus On The Family and what a tremendous blessing from God that was. Not only did we glean much biblical and godly wisdom for the raising of our son, but he grew up with the original Adventures In Odyssey and McGee and Me which were a great blessing to not only our son, but my wife and I as well!

  • Fri Feb 27, 2009 2:59 pm Agree: 1   Disagree: 0

    "Study also showed that although parents spend time with their families on a daily basis, many do not engage in spiritual activities" (Article).

    They may not realize it, but they are definitely involved in the spiritual activity of another.

    "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour..." (1Pe 5:8).

  • Fri Feb 27, 2009 2:34 pm Agree: 2   Disagree: 0

    "...few look to the Bible...for guidance, a new study shows" (Article).

    Hmmm.

    "Train up a child in the way he should go..." (Pr 22:6).

    "All scripture...is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness" (1Ti 3:16).

  • Fri Feb 27, 2009 2:04 pm Agree: 4   Disagree: 6

    This world is reaping what it has sown. No wonder our nation is so anti God.

  • Fri Feb 27, 2009 9:54 am Agree: 9   Disagree: 2

    Crime and our prision population keep rising...any questions?

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