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When Good Christians Go Bad

By Greg Stier|Christian Post Guest Columnist

In case you haven’t heard Mark Sanford, the Republican governor of South Carolina, was caught by his wife in an adulterous affair with a woman from Argentina. To be honest, it makes me cringe when I hear his qualifying explanations and weird apologies. It is obvious that he is still “in love/lust” with this woman but was caught with his hand in the cookie jar. I’m sure he is torn between his commitment to God, his wife, his constituencies and his hormones. To be honest, I wish he would just resign and go away. The media is having a field day with this story. Like pit bulls with raw steak they are salivating, tearing and chomping the tantalizing tidbits of this tawdry real life romance novel.

But there is nothing novel or noble about it. This whole thing makes me sick. It is very sad, not just for his family, but because it gives another black eye to the battered bride of Christ.

Speaking of brides, I actually respect his wife for not just blindly standing by her man, pretending like she supports him. She is angry, committed to God and processing what to do next. She seems like the only one in this story who is not a fake. Don’t get me wrong, I hope they work it out. But I hope they really work it out and not just stay together in the marriage because divorce is not an option, or for the sake of the kids or whatever. And talk about Sanford and sons. I feel bad for the junkyard he has left for his young boys. Their hero has fallen. Their world has cracked.

I am praying that Sanford repents, resigns and then restores his marriage. and gains back the respect of his kids. But the dude has got a long way to go from what I can see.

It’s always something with us Christians. A few years ago it was the whole tawdry affair between Ted Haggard and a male escourt (isn’t that just a fancy way of saying prostitute?) It just seems like every year or two another nationally prominent Christian bites the dust of the lust and we, the believers in Christ, become a laughing stock to the world…again. We just keep giving the unregenerate more and more reasons not to believe in Jesus.

So how are we to respond? What’s a believer to do when good Christians go bad?

1. Don’t be surprised.

A Christian can commit any sin that an unregenerate person can. We still have a sinful nature and it is as depraved as ever. Our sinful nature doesn’t become less sinful when we become Christians. Sure, it is legally dead, like a prisoner on death row without appeals. But it still can lie to us from behind the bars. Paul makes this clear in Romans 7:15-19, “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do-this I keep on doing.”

Don’t be surprised when Christians sin. We all have it in us.

2. Don’t get cocky.

My wife sometimes gets frustrated with me when she asks me “Would you ever cheat on me?” and my answer is inevitably, “I sure hope not.” She wants me to give her a definitive “no!” but I am afraid of giving it because I don’t want to get arrogant about my own ability and resolve to stay pure. It’s that kind of sure-fire cockiness that leads to moral compromise. Galatians 6:1 reminds us, “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.” Continue >>

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  • Sun Jul 05, 2009 1:55 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    not one man is above this, its a fight to the finish. we see these men of God fall by the wayside because satan has 3 objectives to kill, to steal, and to destroy. he will speak in our ears everyday, its our choice to give in and appease that voice. and each one of us, no matter who we are, give in to something the enemy says. we are not above any of this, only by the grace of God and trusting in His word, and doing our best to rely on and hear the Holy Spirit (not just listen, but hear) can we have the victory over all sins. i myself dont always hear the holy spirit, not as extreme as adultery, but sin nonetheless. and i am constantly reminded by these articles how i must fight the good fight, or i will too be defeated.

  • rj78 »
    Fri Jul 03, 2009 10:44 pm Agree: 0   Disagree: 0

    How to tell if you married the right woman-

    1) she has not taken fertility drugs, had a hundred kids, bossed you around and insulted you on camera, ignored you for years while chasing her eight little faces around and wondered why the marriage has not worked

    2) she has not told intimate family secrets, insulted men, told stories about her underwear and done the robot while chanting "what about me, what about me" in front of millions of people

    3) she has not read any book in the "Every Man's Marriage" Series

    4) she has never read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye"

    5) she has always watched your Clint Eastwood dvds with you

    Seriously, guys, when God brings a woman into your life, treat her like gold. Besides Jesus, she is God's greatest gift to you.

  • Fri Jul 03, 2009 5:04 pm Agree: 1   Disagree: 0

    Good article. My wife says she would leave me too if I ever cheated on her, :).

    One other thing I would mention is for the Christian to take a cold hard look at the reality of the situation. Usually, the woman that would give you play is not the woman you would really want to be with. Open your eyes and observe and see the truth about the woman you might be inclined to cheat with, as I think you'll find you're no longer interested when God reveals that truth to you. And if a woman is inclined through sensual appetite or emotional damage to be with a married man, they're probably sexually active with many partners, so think of the potential physical harm to yourself and your wife if you were to become infected with a sexually transmitted disease. Then think about the consequences of your actions on your family, possible divorce, betrayal of your spouse, betrayal of God and damage to your testimony... If you allow yourself to see the big picture you'll easily recognize that the moments of empty pleasure aren't worth the consequences.

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