He began to weep. Not simply moist eyes or mild tears; he openly sobbed. When I asked what I said that had hurt him so badly, he replied, "I just realized I'm not a fool."
"What do you mean?"
"All my family and every one of my friends scolded me for staying with her and trying to fix the marriage. They tell me I'm a fool. She cheated. With my best friend, she cheated. Lied, sneaked around, treated me like dirt.
"I wondered if I am a fool to come to this marriage intensive, but in the last few minutes I realized I'm not a fool."
Again, I asked, "What do you mean?"
"As you explained various reasons to be committed to a relationship, I realized that I have some very important reasons to make this work. Strong reasons. I'm not a fool."