A leggy 17-year-old girl from Virginia says she was kicked out of the Richmond Homeschool Prom because several fathers complained that her dress triggered "impure thoughts." Others who attended the event held in a church gym, however, are calling her a liar.
In a guest post on her sister's blog Clare Ettinger explained that one of the female organizers of the event took issue with her dress even after she had checked to make sure that it met the "fingertip length" dress code, which is a requirement for attending the prom. Even after that, she said, the same woman pulled her aside during the prom and advised her that her provocative dancing in her dress could incite "impure thoughts" among the young men in the room.
"She took me into a corner in the hallway, with another woman (who I'm assuming was a parent/chaperone), and told me that some of the dads who were chaperoning had complained that my dancing was too provocative and that I was going to cause the young men at the prom to think impure thoughts," wrote Ettinger.
"At this point I said to her that I hadn't been dancing at all! Much less seductively, and that even if I had been being inappropriate, they should issue a warning instead of just kicking me out," she explained.
She noted that: "I'm not responsible for some perverted 45-year-old dad lusting after me because I have a sparkly dress on and a big a** for a teenager. And if you think I am, then maybe you're part of the problem."
Callie Hobbs, another teen who attended the event, however, disputes Clare Ettinger's account of what happened, dismissing it as "full of lies."
"Her entire story is full of lies and slander," said Hobbs in a blog post.
"I have been to many homeschool proms and the Richmond Homeschool Prom is most definitely the least conservative one I have attended. The dress code for ladies merely required that dresses be fingertip length. I personally don't recall seeing girls with dresses violating the requirements (which are the exact same as the local high schools). Clare even approached me and showed me that her dress adhered – yes, it was edgy and as close as she could get to breaking it; but yes, it was fingertip length," she explained.
Hobbs noted that Ettinger faults the look of her dress on her long legs and admits that long legs on women can be a problem when dressing, but it doesn't mean that leggy women cannot be modest.
"I can whole-heartedly agree with that statement, as I have long legs myself and have had to refrain from wearing certain things because they appear more immodest than they would on a girl with shorter legs. It is an honest struggle. In the end, her dress was close enough to breaking the dress code that it was checked," she said.
"Clare talks about how she isn't responsible for other people's thought or drives, but she admits in her blog post that she looked hot and would turn heads when walking through a door," she continued.
"Clare was seen by multiple sources (students) to be dancing provocatively, and as she moved her dress rose. When she was approached and asked to pull it down by female chaperones, Clare responded with extreme disrespect toward the authorities, at which point she was asked to leave. Not one person ever mentioned anything about impure thoughts. She was removed from the dance because her behavior was not in line with the set rules," she explained.
Hobbs also came to the defense of the homeschool fathers she argues were disparaged in Ettinger's blog post.
"I find the most disturbing part of this situation to be the accusations against the dads," she said.
"I was there, and the dads were not talking amongst themselves about the girls dancing and they were certainly not ogling. They were only doing the jobs they had selflessly volunteered for so that the homeschool community could enjoy prom," she said.