One of the reasons for Saddlebacks growth is because weve maintained a harmonious atmosphere. When a church loves, it attracts people like a magnet. When a church really offers love to each other and those who are welcomed into it, youd have to lock the doors to keep people out!
In the second half of Romans 14, Paul says building each other up is the secret to building a loving church. He says its not enough to just accept or tolerate the people you dont get along with in the church. Instead, he says we need to actively build each other up. Satan would love to destroy your church by goading one group of people into getting angry at another group.
Phillips translates Romans 14:19 as: Let us concentrate on things that make for harmony and the growth of our fellowship together. Paul says you should concentrate on two things: (1) that which makes for harmony, and (2) that which helps the church grow. So we must always aim at those things that bring peace and health, that strengthen one another.
According to Paul, there were three issues causing conflict in the Roman church: diet, days, and drink. But the principle Paul establishes in Romans 14 transcends those three examples. Paul gives five ways that we are to build others up:
By committing ourselves to building each other up
Determine this: From this day forward Im going to make it one of my goals in ministry to build up those around me.
Can you imagine if a small core of leaders in your church committed to building up everyone they came in contact with? What if just five people in your church began writing letters one note a week saying, I appreciate you, and they sent them to others in your congregation. What kind of impact would that have on the morale of your church?
Paul instructs us to make this building up of others our goal. Life is tough, and there are enough discouraging people in the world. We need a whole band an army of encouragers! Instead of criticizing people we dont agree with, or whose lifestyle we dont like, we should pray for them and encourage them.
We all need to learn from Pauls instructions in Romans 14. The strong believer needs to grow in love, and the weak believer needs to grow in knowledge. Now, when Paul talks about a weak believer, hes talking about a legalistic Christian who, rather than seeing the relationship with Christ as the key element, sees the rules, regulations, and rituals as the key to a Christian life. The only problem is my list rarely matches yours. Legalistic Christians need to grow in knowledge of Gods grace. On the other hand, those Christians who say, Im not hung up on rules and regulations need to grow in their love, possibly limiting some of the things they do for the benefit of those who might be offended.
By recognizing the value of every person
Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died. (Rom. 14:15b)
They may be obnoxious; they may be immature; they may be disagreeable, but Christ died for them. And dont forget that! When you start to get upset with someone in your area of ministry or in the church, just remember: Christ died for that person.
That shows how valuable and important they are to God. What right do I have to hurt people Christ died for? The answer is: I dont have the right. Stay attuned to their importance to God.
By keeping our focus on whats really important
Dont allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil. For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and is approved of men. (Rom. 14:16)
Paul is saying that food and drink are not the burning issues of life. The essence of Christianity is not external but internal. By focusing on the things that are internal eternally important we can then put up with a lot of external quirks, faults, and faux pas.
Let me give you an illustration: Back in 1917, as the Bolsheviks grabbed the reigns of power through a revolution in Russia, the priests in the Orthodox Church were in a heated debate over how long the tassels should be on their robes. They ignored the Bolshevik revolution, and instead split their church arguing over this trivial matter!
As the son of a pastor, Ive been in hundreds of churches. Through that, Ive learned that most churches dont split over major issues. They split over trivia, foolish little things. And Paul is making the plea: Dont be sidetracked over minor issues.
When the world looks at a Christian, their first thought shouldnt be, Hes got every jot and tittle crossed. Instead, they ought to be able to see righteousness, peace, and joy flowing from the Holy Spirit out of that Christian. As the great preacher Vance Havner once said, You can be straight as a gun barrel doctrinally, but be empty spiritually. You can avoid that by focusing on whats really important.
By limiting our liberty out of love for each other
Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All food is clean but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. Its better not to eat meat, drink wine, or do anything else that will cause your brother to fall. (Rom. 14:20)
When my liberty limits the work of God, then Ive got a problem. I have to be sensitive to how my liberty potentially causes a weaker brother to stumble.
When God called me into the ministry, I was basically a hippie. I had really long hair. But then I was asked to go to Bakersfield a rather conservative area of California to do a citywide crusade. Guess what? When I sent them a picture, the steering committee wanted to cancel the crusade. They were concerned that my hair would encourage the young people to grow their own hair long, in direct contradiction to what the adults had been teaching.
What did I do? It didnt take me but a moment to decide. I cut my hair. Even though I had every right to wear my hair any length, I limited my liberty in order to minister to others.
Pauls point in Romans is that if I need to limit the way that I dress, fine, Ill limit the way I dress. Im not limiting myself out of legalism. Im limiting myself because I want to minister to people, who may not be mature enough to accept a different form of dress. (This is why I wear a suit whenever I leave southern California!) Other peoples souls are far more important than my liberty.
By not forcing my opinion on others
As long as I am the senior pastor of Saddleback, we will not make disputable issues a test of fellowship. We will not say, regarding disputable matters, Believe as I believe, think as I think, drink as I drink, do as I do Be like me! Only then can I fellowship with you. Dont force your opinion on others.
Romans 14:22: So whatever you believe about these things, keep between yourself and God. Blessed is the man who does not condemn himself by what he approves.
Paul says, on these disputable matters, keep them between you and the Lord. Go ahead and enjoy your freedom, but dont flaunt it. Enjoy your freedom but enjoy it in privacy. You can practice your freedom without parading it.
Romans 12:18 offers a good balance for this: While you need to look out for people who might be offended by a legitimate stumbling block issue, some legalists will be upset no matter what you do. Youll never be able to please them. In that event, Paul says, As far as it depends on you, if it is possible, live at peace with all men.
God even admits there are some people you cant get along with! In that case, its not so much your problem as it is theirs. Their nitpicking says more about them than you. What you need to do is allow the Holy Spirit to help you determine when youre dealing with a legitimate stumbling block and when youre dealing with another believer who is simply unpleasable. But don't jump to the conclusion that its their problem. Take it to God and see what he has to say.
The result of building each other up is a spirit of unity that glorifies God: So with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is glorified because unity brings glory to God. When Christians are divided, its a bad testimony to the world. When Christians are united, its a beautiful testimony.
Verse 13 says a unified church is marked by joy, peace, hope, and power: May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Thats the kind of church I want to be a part of. Saddleback is not a perfect church, but it is a healthy church and its growing in joy, peace, hope, and power.
Until next week,
This article is adapted from Rick Warrens book, The Purpose Driven Church.
Rick Warren is the founding pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, Calif., one of America's largest and best-known churches. In addition, Rick is author of the New York Times bestseller The Purpose-Driven Life and The Purpose-Driven Church, which was named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th Century. He is also founder of Pastors.com, a global Internet community for ministers. Copyright 2005 Pastors.com, Inc. Used with permission. All rights reserved.