Over the last few days I've written a couple of columns such as, Parents of Gay Kids, Stop Beating Yourself Up, It's Not Your Fault and Why I Hate The Word Gay, But Still Use It.
I'm not surprised that there are a lot of people out there that have incredibly different views than the ones I express in my columns…. because I used to have incredibly different views than ones I express in these columns. Five years ago I scoffed at the (then to me) laughably ludicrous idea of homosexual behavior being sinful. But now my views have changed. My perceptions of sexuality, ultimate authority (it belongs to God, not me) and reality have changed.
I woke up this morning to some tweets bashing me and my beliefs… again. According to some of the gay bloggers and editors of other gay publishing outlets I'm an "Anti-gay-but-still-gay, self hating, internalizing homophobe that listens to QUEEN."
The "left".. the "gays".. the "liberals"… whatever you want to call them… claim that tolerance and respect are the key to a flourishing society, but why can't they tolerate me? Why can't they tolerate my views?
I totally get that the things that I believe are extreme. I claim the biblical truth that the core of man — his heart — is corrupt and evil and in need to transformation. I claim the biblical truth that the only way to be saved from our corruption is through the Person of Jesus. I claim that apart from Jesus Christ we are dead in our transgressions and under the wrath of God, and that if we remain separated from Him at our physical death, we will be judged eternally for our rebellion against His authority, His love and His gracious offer of mercy in the gospel.
But I always — always — strive to communicate these truths in meekness, humility and love. I'm not picketing gay marriage ceremonies (I don't even speak out against gay marriage in my writing!). I never talk about homosexual behavior being gross or worse than any other sexual sin. I don't speak in anger or impatience or in a remotely judgmental tone. I try to always write with a conscious attitude of patience and compassion, and as someone who understands the opposing perspectives and beliefs — because I've held them myself.
My "haters" tell me that they're so harsh on me because my beliefs are so intolerant and exclusive…. but isn't that quite the case of the pot calling the kettle black? You say my beliefs are too exclusive and intolerant, yet your beliefs say that anyone who disagrees with you should be publicly shamed, relentlessly ridiculed, harshly criticized, and ultimately silenced. That's really inconsistent.
I'm not writing this column because I'm surprised at people's reactions. "If they hated me, they will hate you.."- Jesus.
I write this column to ask you — the "left", the "liberals", the gay activists, the bloggers, the editors, etc., that harp against me on the regular — to stop for a second and think about what you believe. See that you violently rail against the very idea of tolerance that you preach. Yes, my beliefs — and my Lord — say that you need to repent of your sins and trust in Christ for forgiveness and new life. But if you don't do that, I'm not going to hate you. I'm not going to be angry with you. I'm not going to not be your friend. I'm going to be respectful and tolerant — in the truest sense of the word — of you as a person and your right to hold to whatever beliefs you choose. Even if I think they're wrong and harmful to you and society.
So why can't you tolerate me, and the multitude of vocal and truthful yet loving and lowly Christians like me, in return? We're vocal with you because we love you and desire to see you do what's ultimately in your best interest. We desire to see you love and follow the one true God, Jesus Christ.
But you're vocal with us because you hate us. Who is really being intolerant, hateful, and exclusive one, here?