It is ironic that the movie Fifty Shades of Grey is set to hit theaters this Valentine's Day—redefining a day that is specifically deemed as a celebration of love. Instead of lighthearted romance, Fifty Shades of Grey focuses on deviant sexual practices like bondage and control; it is a blatant attempt to normalize violent sexual behaviors. The film, based on a book by the same name, is a dangerous first step towards mainstreaming this sort of violence against women.
Based on early reviews of the movie, it is said that lead male character Christian Grey "wants total control over Anastasia [the lead female character] … the right to dictate her eating patterns and her contraception choices, plus the right to inflict pain on her as a means of arousing himself." As if that wasn't scary enough, the movie is packed with the use of BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism), which is a practice that involves an individual who is gratified by either receiving or inflicting pain within consensual sex. Even "sexual therapists" who support BDSM are criticizing the book's portrayal of BDSM and say that the practice should neither involve exploitation nor emotional and physical abuse.
Supporters of Fifty Shades would argue that since Anastasia consents to the violence, we should not compare it to such serious issues like domestic violence and sex trafficking. But consent doesn't make abuse correct. Take, for example, those who consent to habitual practices or addictions. Just because a person agrees to a practice, it doesn't necessary deem it a healthy behavior. In fact, according to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, more >>
I'm pleased to see that the Southern Poverty Law Center has come to its senses and apologized to Dr. Ben Carson, removing him from their "extremist" list. But they need to apologize to me too, since I'm still on their list, along with a number of other Christian leaders whom they have branded anti-gay extremists.
To be sure, I have considered it a badge of honor to be on the SPLC's list, actually writing an article in 2012 thanking them for placing me in their elite category of "30 New Activists Heading Up the Radical Right."
And, needless to say, I am not a famed children's neuro-surgeon and potential presidential candidate. In other words, I am not Dr. Ben Carson. more >>
For most of her life, former stripper and prostitute Annie Lobert sought a man to swoop into her life and rescue her from the hardships of growing up in a broken home, just like in the fairy tales. Now the founder of Hookers for Jesus, a ministry for sex workers, Lobert says too many women are placing their hopes for love and security in the wrong place.
Jesus Christ, she said, is the ultimate knight in shining armor, able to rescue them from a life of sin and transforming lives and relationships.
"What us women need to understand [is] if a man can't do what you ideally think he should do, [it is because] God is the only one who can do that for you. Jesus Christ is the only one who can ultimately be your ultimate romantic interest and I'm not talking about sexually. I'm talking about that intimate love bond that we have that heals all wounds, that heals all insecurities, that heals all the things that we think our husbands should do and be," she told The Christian Post. more >>
WASHINGTON — Construction has officially begun on the Museum of the Bible, a longtime project spearheaded by Hobby Lobby President Steve Green, which is scheduled to open in Washington, D.C. in 2017.
"In many respects this is the kickoff of a three year project. We've been working on it for two years, this is the first time that anything major will be exposed to the public," Cary Summers, president of the Museum of the Bible, said Thursday flanked by artistic renderings of the 430,000-square-foot-building.
"Hopefully, it will be a great addition to this city. As you know, Washington, D.C. is the capital of museums in the world." more >>
As I stumble through the awkward limbo of single, yet soon-to-be-married, I've tried to read every resource tagged within the "marriage," "love," and "relationships" genre. This, and the fact that I was desperate to escape the zillions of online articles dissecting Fifty Shades of Grey from every possible angle (though I'm grateful for their messages), prompted me to download a copy of Pastor Andy Stanley's new book on romantic relationships to my Kindle. It seemed like a good idea at the time.
Geared towards the young, unwed, and culturally savvy, Stanley explains in the introduction that his purpose for writing The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating (Zondervan, January 2015) is to "increase your relational satisfaction quota." What does that mean? Red flags started to rise. Still I pressed onward with hopes of encountering helpful gems of wisdom and Christian counsel over the next 200 pages. After all, the author is the Evangelical pastor of the largest church in America.
I'll start with the positive. more >>
Texas pastor Matt Chandler, of The Village Church, says the way singles date these days is "goofy" and that he plans to teach his three children to go the "traditional dating" route.
The Mingling of Souls author told The Christian Post, "The way I define it in the book and the way I'm hopefully going to impart to my children, the way we want to do it as the Chandler family is that I think that dating is that period of time of where you're working through and seeing … is this person for me, is the reputation there, is the character there, can I see myself spending my life with them."
The Chandler family way is a return to "traditional dating," where the father of three – two girls and one boy – described as, "You go out in a group, you're getting to know one another, it's not this kind of intense, so do you want to have kids over coffee – that's not dating." more >>