I'm often asked why I don't use the terms "gay" or "homosexual" to describe myself — or even "bisexual" now that I've begun to dip my toes in the "heterosexual" dating world. If throwing quotations around these terms doesn't insinuate strongly enough my distaste for them, let me say it plainly: I am not a fan of the prevalent language used in our society to think and talk about human sexuality. I believe it is pregnant with faulty ideas that skew a person's self-perspective and hinder Christian growth. I refuse to submit myself to it by identifying as homosexual or heterosexual or bisexual or asexual or any-other-kind-of-sexual.
Many of my Christian brothers and sisters don't understand this. They see no harm in using self-descriptors like gay and homosexual to convey that one is attracted to the same gender or self-descriptors like straight and heterosexual to convey that one is attracted to the opposite gender. They don't understand why I opt to use lengthier descriptions to narrate my experience when I could simply say, "I am gay." Sure, it takes a lot less time to say, "I am gay," than it does to say, "I am a fallen human being who is riddled with sin and who experiences all kinds of inclinations that seek to entice me away from God's good design, including a sinful sexual attraction toward the same gender." The latter is a mouthful! However, I find it to be a necessary mouthful — for a couple of significant reasons.
First, I believe the sexuality language of our day flows from an ideology that gives sexuality a higher seat at the "identity table" than I think it should. These labels are not just words used to describe a person's inclinations, preferences, or behaviors — these labels are loaded with ideas about who a person is. In our current context, someone's sexuality largely dictates who their friends are, the bars they frequent, the country clubs they join, the bumper stickers they put on their cars, and the kind of flag they wave. Before I converted to Christianity, my attraction to men was the chief informer of my self-perspective. I didn't see Matt Moore as just a man; I saw Matt Moore as a gay man. Every person I knew in the LGBT community viewed and described themselves in the same way. Above so many other things, we were gay. more >>
"People almost invariably arrive at their beliefs not on the basis of proof but on the basis of what they find attractive," said Blaise Pascal. Indeed, attraction, not reason, is the engine of the LGBTQ movement. Otherwise, it wouldn't be riddled with contradictions such as:
1. There are no differences between men and women.
Except when we demand the right to marry people of the same sex because people of the opposite sex are just too different than people of the same sex. more >>
This week, Pew Research Center released a poll of over 4,000 individuals who had attended a religious service within the past few months. It asked respondents how often clergy had spoken out about various social and political issues.
An impressive 64 percent of respondents reported that they had heard clergy speak about at least one of the six issues included in the survey. However, the survey indicates that when it comes to polarizing morality policy issues, majorities of churchgoers hear nothing.
Only 40 percent of respondents stated that clergy had spoken about religious liberty. Similarly, 39 percent stated that clergy had spoken about homosexuality. Finally, only 29 percent of respondents recalled hearing about abortion. more >>
The Rev. Samuel Rodriguez is "grateful" that the California legislature recently dropped a proposal in a pro-LGBT bill that critics say would have curbed religious liberty for private schools.
California state Sen. Ricardo Lara announced earlier this week that he was dropping a measure in a bill that would have removed certain exemptions from religious colleges.
As president of the National Hispanic Christian Leadership Conference, Rodriguez said in a statement Wednesday that he and his organization "hope and pray that future legislative proposals will engage the faith community in a viable conversation that will protect the rights of all." more >>
We've heard it for years now. "Love is love. I have the right to marry the one I love. Love wins."
Well, if these slogans are true, why can't a mother marry her adult son? Why is that wrong?
If two grown men or two grown women can marry each other, why can't a grown mother and son have a consensual, loving relationship? more >>
California State Senator Ricardo Lara announced that he will be dropping a provision from a bill that critics warned would have curbed the religious exemption rights of private schools.
Senator Lara recently introduced Senate Bill 1146, which among other things would have made it easier for LGBT students of religious colleges to sue the schools for upholding traditional Christian teachings on gender and sexuality.
In a statement published in the Los Angeles Times on Wednesday, Lara explained that while he supports protecting LGBT students of religious schools, he is aware that certain "unintended consequences" may come from his bill. more >>