For many young adults a few generations ago, the path to marriage was as straight as Cupid's arrow: Guy meets girl, guy and girl date exclusively, guy and girl get married. However, many of today's young adults are taking a much more roundabout path down the aisle — if they even make the trip at all — and there's something wrong with that, says the new straight-talking guide on relationships, The Dating Manifesto.
In her debut title released in August, Lisa Anderson, director of young adults for Focus on the Family and host of the national radio program "The Boundless Show," debunks popular notions like "not settling" and waiting for "The One," as well as the fantasies portrayed in Hollywood — all of which she says have blurred the path to marriage for many young adults. She teaches singles how to circumvent these stumbling blocks and pursue marriage with purpose.
"A few generations ago, marriage was so normative," Anderson told The Christian Post. In fact, in 1960, 72 percent of all adults ages18 and older were married, according to a Pew Research study. By 2010, however, that figure had dropped to 51 percent. more >>
Tullian Tchividjian, the former pastor of Coral Ridge Presbyterian church in Florida, has said in a message to his supporters that although many Christian leaders often disappear when they fall from grace, he believes the Gospel message allows him to be seen at his "most embarrassing worst."
"What typically happens when a Christian leader falls is that they disappear and only reappear when they're strong and shiny again. No one ever sees them in their broken and weakened condition. When we do this, we send the message that Christianity is only for good and strong and clean people," Tchividjian said in a Facebook post.
"But believe it or not, Christianity is not about good people getting better. It is, rather, good news for bad people coping with their failure to be good. The message of the Christian faith is that because Jesus was strong for us we are free to be weak," he added. more >>
A new book, which is landing in bookstores today, warns that we are headed for a new Dark Ages. "Persecution [is] coming to the church soon," the author warns. "It's going to happen as a result of conflicts over sex." He predicts that "the break in the wall is the tax exemption" churches now enjoy. If churches refuse to "marry" homosexual couples, they will lose their exemption.
Who is the author of these predictions? None other than Chuck Colson, who went home to the Lord more than three years ago. That's three years before the Supreme Court legalized same-sex "marriage" — something biologically impossible, by the way.
The book is titled My Final Word: Holding Tight to the Issues that Matter Most. It's a collection of never-before published memos that Chuck sent to his writing staff, reporters, even presidential candidates who wanted his advice. And as the examples I just cited illustrates, Chuck's writings are incredibly prophetic. more >>
Tullian Tchividjian, a grandson of prominent evangelical preacher Billy Graham, who resigned as lead pastor of Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church in Florida in June after confessing to an "inappropriate" relationship with another woman who was not his wife, says he now understands why people commit suicide. He also said he never thought he would be unfaithful.
"It's one thing not to be shocked at other people's sins. That was the one thing I was convinced I would never do. I knew that I could be lured by this or that or the other, but I always had my guard up. I knew that that (adultery) was a career killer, at least in my experience with pastors and church leaders," said Tchividjian in an interview with William Vanderbloemen for a new podcast series recently launched by Vanderbloemen Search Group, America's leading pastoral search firm.
He explained that while his affair was short-lived he was devastated by what he had done. more >>
As the question "Would you attend a same-sex wedding?" has been thrown at many Republican presidential candidates following June's Supreme Court ruling, Ohio Gov. John Kasich declared during Thursday night's Fox News Republican presidential debate that he has, in fact, attended a gay wedding.
When asked by Fox host Megyn Kelly how he would explain his opposition to gay marriage to a hypothetical gay son or lesbian daughter, the former chairman of the House Budget Committee explained that while he believes in traditional marriage, his faith tells him to be loving and accepting to all.
He added that since the Supreme Court ruled in Obergefell v. Hodges that state bans against same-sex marriage are unconstitutional, the ruling must be honored, which is a position that he has taken since before the Supreme Court released its decision. more >>
We understand that you are feeling a bit overwhelmed by recent events that threaten to marginalize you. We'd like to offer a bit of empathy, and if it is not too presumptuous, some valuable experience and tools as well. You see, we've been there before.
First came the recent Pew study entitled "America's Changing Religious Landscape." Pew demonstrates that more Christians continue to live in the US than any other country in the world. About seven out of ten Americans call themselves Christian. But it also found that the percentage of adults (ages 18 and older) who describe themselves as Christians has dropped by nearly eight percentage points in just seven years, while the percentage of Americans who are religiously unaffiliated — describing themselves as atheist, agnostic or "nothing in particular" — has jumped more than six points. Losses are severe among mainline Protestants and Catholics. Lots of Christians are understandably worried about this trend.
Evangelicals, however, did much better. Your hard numbers actually improved. But those of us who have evangelical friends know that you, too, are wondering whether the trends towards unbelief (or at least no church affiliation) will catch up with you as well. Your retention rate of young people — one number bandied about is 69%, which means losing one person in three — is already keeping you up nights. more >>