As somebody who was raised in multiple divorce/remarriage situations, the phrase "blended family" has always reminded me of a blender. Yes, a literal blender, like this.
A blender is a machine that takes various soft tissues and liquefies, chops, cuts, etc., with the intent of creating a unique new, whole, thing. It isn't a pleasant process if you happen to be in the role of the blendee. I know that the intent behind "blended family" is to convey something far milder than being put through a blender. It's supposed to serve as a replacement for "step family," which some feel is more harsh or stark.
There is a certain presupposition to the phrase, isn't there? It goes like this: that the blending process will proceed rapidly and smoothly, and will yield a consistent, predictable result. To continue with the cooking analogy, if something can't be blended in a blender we don't even try. Similarly, we don't refer to a smoothie as "blended smoothie." It's the same with other food items. We don't say, "blended bean dip." Either the process works, and therefore "blended" is implied in description, or it doesn't work, and we don't even try it. Isn't "blended" only widely used as an adjective with the word "family?" Can you think of other widely used phrases that use the word "blended" as an adjective? I cannot. more >>
Texas pastor Matt Chandler and his wife, Lauren, advised Christian singles in their weekly video series to be honest as they date and trust God to help find the balance between covering up the past and revealing too much, too soon.
The Village Church leader told singles it is a "good, right desire" to "guard your heart" in dating relationships, noting that the phrase comes from scripture. However he warned there is a fine line between taking it slow and being deceptive in order to win a person.
Chandler explained, "There's a legitimacy to guarding our hearts but I think we can guard too much and we can guard to the place where then we almost become used car salesmen … what I'm trying to say is all we want to do is point to the best things and we don't want to go, 'now this has been an issue historically, or this.' So we can guard our heart to the point where we're not known and we're not known in a way that increases intimacy and increases (one's ability to tell) is this moving towards marriage or is it not." more >>
Avril Lavigne is requesting prayers from fans after suffering from an unnamed illness this week.
On Sunday, the "Here's to Never Growing Up" singer shared information with a Twitter fan, including the fact that she had not been in the studio because of a health problem. The fan, @AvrilMusicChart, asked if Lavigne was in the studio working on another album and shared the exchange.
"I feel bad because I haven't been able to say [anything to] fans to let them (sic) no why I've been absent," the singer replied via a Twitter direct message. "I'm torn as I'm quite private." more >>
Nick Cannon has admitted to being separated from estranged wife Mariah Carey after months of media speculation but insists he is not ready to date.
Carey, the 44-year-old singer, is said to be divorcing Cannon, the 34-year-old entertainment mogul and comedian, after six years of marriage and two 3-year-old children. While Cannon is working to cover up a tattoo of his wife's name with a massive image of Jesus Christ on his back, he insists that he is not thinking about moving on with another love interest.
"I'm dating no one. I'm not even ready for that right now," Cannon told CNN's Don Lemon recently. "I'm just trying to focus on my family and my children." more >>
"Teen Mom 2" star Leah Messer-Calvert has decided to rejoin the cast of MTV's "Teen Mom 2" and publicly thanked God for her life.
Messer-Calvert has seemingly struggled with her marriage and raising three daughters, including one with special needs. However, she has held on to her faith throughout all of those struggles, even when she told a fan via Twitter that she was not returning to the series that made her a household name. Now, though, things have taken another turn and Messer-Calvert is reportedly joining the other young moms for just one more season.
"God is LOVE!! I am so thankful for the life he had give unto me!" Messer-Calvert tweeted, along with the hashtag #AAA, most likely in honor of her three daughters, whose names all start with the letter "A." more >>
A lawsuit is moving forward against a Washington State florist who refused to supply floral arrangements for a same-sex wedding ceremony based on her religious objection, which could put her at risk of serious financial loss and the loss of her business.
Baronelle Stutzman, who owns and operates Arlene's Flowers in Richland, Washington, is being sued by the Washington State attorney general's office for refusing to supply flowers for a same-sex couple's wedding ceremony. Instead, she referred the couple to another nearby florist who could supply flowers for their wedding.
The attorney general's office filed its lawsuit against Stutzman in 2013, and after the judge who was presiding over the case joined the federal bench, another judge has been appointed to the case and began hearing arguments on the case last week. Judge Alex Ekstrom is expected to set the start of the trial for sometime in the Spring. more >>