NYC megachurch pastor and influential author Timothy Keller was recently asked "why sex outside of marriage is so destructive" and in his response spoke personally about the intimacy he has enjoyed with his wife over the years.
"Sex inside of a committed marriage is magic," said Keller. "It's like blowing on the coals of this incredible beautiful and powerful flame. Sex outside of marriage is just a way of not giving yourself, but of receiving fulfillment and pleasure."
Keller, who shares three sons with his wife, Kathy Keller, gives his perspective on sex and marriage briefly in a video interview with spoken word artist and author Jefferson Bethke, who recently launched a new YouTube series called "Ask a Leader," featuring discussions with pastors, authors and musicians. more >>
Hawaii's House lawmakers who voted against the state's bill that recently legalized same-sex marriage have received a stocking full of coal in the mail by an anonymous sender this past week.
The 19 members of the state's House of Representatives who voted against Hawaii Senate Bill 1 received in the mail last Thursday black boxes, each one containing a large lump of coal wrapped in a red pouch and nestled in a bed of green tissue paper. A note acompanying the strange delivery read: "You left a piece of your heart at the State Building when you voted on SB-1 [the marriage equality bill] […] Your lifestyle choice of judging others and ignorance is very unfortunate. Good luck in the next election."
The packages were tracked to their return address, which was listed as the Hilo Medical Center on the big island of Hawaii, but the center has denied any involvement with the prank. Since it is not technically illegal to send coal to state politicians, the legislators have said they have no intention pursuing the peculiar package's origins further. None of the state's senators who voted "no" on the bill received a package. more >>
They are single by default, by circumstance, or by choice. They may have visions of marriage and family while others have totally given up. The rarest of all in the Body see their relational context as a gift. But regardless of perspective and desire, all these men face unique moral and spiritual struggles which require more, not less, character than their married friends.
Strong beliefs are required to support stronger (but culturally disapproved) behaviors that preserve spiritual integrity. It's ironic that the most influential man who ever walked the planet was unmarried, yet was self rooted in God and had a purpose that transcended the broken male culture of his day. Jesus, as well as a host of other examples in the Bible, provide the template for our conversations with and ministry to unmarried men. Here are the top three issues, examples and principles we should be addressing with this group of men God wants to use mightily.
Married Christian couple of four years Stephanie and Brandon decided to take some of the lessons learned from the past half-decade by creating short viral content about their wedded life.
Stephanie: "We all want ideal marriages, but that's not always the reality. It's so helpful when you know that other people argue about solving something with their spouse, too. It kind of normalizes it a bit and allows you to look at it and laugh at it and then just move past it, and continue to encourage your spouse as well as other couples in their marriage. That what we all need. We just need a healthy dose of encouragement." more >>
While Illinois became the 16th state in the U.S. to legalize same-sex marriage on Wednesday, with Gov. Pat Quinn calling it an "epic victory" for America, a non-profit law group has warned that the new law may threaten religious freedom for those opposed to the practice.
"This new law is an epic victory for equal rights in America. Illinois is moving forward. We are a model for our country. If the Land of Lincoln can achieve marriage equality, so can every other state in the nation," Quinn said after signing the bill.
The gay marriage law, which takes effect on June 1, 2014, was pushed by the Illinois governor throughout the 2013 legislative sessions. Quinn has been a long-time supporter of expanding the definition of marriage, and in 2011 signed a civil union legislation, which has allowed more than 6,000 couples across the state to join in civil unions. more >>
California and New Jersey passed new laws this year barring counselors from talk-therapy that would aid minors in getting rid of unwanted same sex-attractions. Equating conversations with lobotomies and electric shock treatments, the two states assert that they are well within their rights to dictate how mental health professionals should go about their counseling.
Though "reparative therapy" has been stigmatized by the media, sexual attraction does in fact change for many people throughout their lifetimes. Mounting evidence proves this kind of counseling can be invaluable to those seeking to change their attractions.
As Nicholas Cummings, former president of the American Psychological Association, who treated thousands of gays and lesbians in San Francisco throughout his career asserted, "Contending that all same-sex attraction is immutable is a distortion of reality. Attempting to characterize all sexual reorientation therapy as 'unethical' violates patient choice and gives an outside party a veto over patients' goals for their own treatment." more >>