Conversations about the importance of fathers usually revolve around sons: how boys benefit from having a positive male role model, a consistent disciplinarian, and a high-energy roughhousing partner on their way to pursuing career and family success in adulthood. But as recent research shows, fathers also affect the lives of their young adult daughters in intriguing and occasionally surprising ways.
In exploring this area, uppermost on the minds of many is a young woman's academic and vocational path-how her relationship with her father influences her academic performance and, as a consequence, her career success and financial well-being. As you might guess, daughters whose fathers have been actively engaged throughout childhood in promoting their academic or athletic achievements and encouraging their self-reliance and assertiveness are more likely to graduate from college and to enter the higher paying, more demanding jobs traditionally held by males. This helps explain why girls who have no brothers are overly represented among the world's political leaders: they tend to receive more encouragement from their fathers to be high achievers. Even college and professional female athletes often credit their fathers for helping them to become tenacious, self-disciplined, ambitious, and successful.
Interestingly, too, when female college students were asked what they would do if their fathers disapproved of their career plans, the overwhelming majority said they would not change their plans. But the daughters who communicated the most comfortably and had the closest relationships with their fathers were more willing to reconsider their plans if their fathers disapproved. more >>
Thirty-five years ago at an outdoor Christian festival, I made an erroneous statement for which I was sued for $19.5 million dollars. Thank God the case was settled. The nightmare revolved around the mistaken notion that the author of a pop psychology book was dead. The book was called, "I'm OK - You're OK."
That catchy title is repeated oftentimes to this day in counseling parents how to handle a son or daughter revealing they are gay or lesbian. "Don't be judgmental. Convey unconditional love. Accept them as they are. Realize they're born this way. Reassure them you're okay and they're okay in whatever sexual identity they choose."
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Professor and Christian author Alex Chediak says that in order for parents to raise godly teenagers, they must use more than apologetics resources.
Alex Chediak, who teaches engineering and physics at California Baptist University, wrote about the topic in a book released earlier this year titled, Preparing Your Teens for College: Faith, Friends, Finances, And Much More.
"Information and logical arguments are helpful in making Christianity understandable and credible, and in dismantling false worldviews, but ultimately an act of the will (and the work of God in someone's heart) is involved," wrote Chediak. more >>
A Virginia church has generated a lot of controversy over its distribution of a pamphlet that some claim wrongly stereotypes Muslims.
Bible Baptist Church of Roanoke made local news when some in the city's Muslim community expressed concern over the distribution of a pamphlet on Islam. Titled "Unforgiven?" the pamphlet was created by Chick Publications, a fundamentalist Christian evangelism outlet.
In an interview with local media, Roanoke resident Hussain Al-Shiblawi said the messages in the pamphlet suggest that Muslims are violent and condemned to hell. more >>
When I say the name Dr. James Dobson . . . what one word comes to mind?
A lot you might say, "family." James Dobson's leadership in family-building is known at least as far as radio waves can transmit or wires can plug in.
For many other people, the Dobson word association is "controversy," or something close, which is fine. To believe in something strongly is to let go of the popularity vote. more >>
In response to the recent California shooting last month, when 22-year-old Elliot Rodger killed six people before taking his own life, and the subsequent #YesAllWomen Twitter discussion exposing the prevalence of misogyny, one male Christian writer wants to debunk the belief that women exist for male pleasure.
Ryan Hoselton, a graduate of The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, admitted on The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood website that "all men have in some fashion entertained or acted upon the idea that women exist for their pleasure."
"Believing it has only given men dissatisfaction and misery, and it has provoked objectification, hatred, and even violence toward women," he wrote earlier this week. "Because Elliot Rodger believed that women exist for his pleasure, he went on a killing spree in Santa Barbara. Christians should not miss this opportunity to declare loudly that this belief about women is damaging and evil." more >>