Recently, I learned the term "himpathy." This term is used to describe what happens when men rally around men who have been accused of something. They support them simply because they are men and they have put themselves in the shoes of the accused.
In these days of #MeToo and #ChurchToo, after Bill Hybels and Paige Patterson have very publicly fallen from lofty perches in the Evangelical world, let's turn to a Bible story written more than 2,500 years ago for a blueprint for productive relationships between men and women.
It just takes a hint of inappropriate behavior to take down a leader of God's flock in today's socially charged environment. Bill Hybels is just like all of us, but his success and influence makes us believe that his ministry somehow translates into impeccable private character.
A person — not policy or politics — committed this atrocity.
Sexual revelations about their children shake most parents to the core.
As children move though the teen years they desire to pole vault into independence. This, mixed with a bubbling set of hormones and an ever-expanding understanding of society, can make fathering teens one of the hardest, emotionally charged tasks for God's man.
You might be surprised to know that I don't think the No. 1 threat to marriage is infidelity. Of course, cheating can certainly cause divorce and make it extremely difficult to recover a healthy marriage. And, yes, I agree women can be highly tempting, but they are merely accomplices—because the hunger for power, money, fame and success can also consume a man and wreck a marriage.
It's inevitable and universal, as soon as Christmas winds down and December 31 appears on our phones, we all face a new year with new opportunities. Many are resolving to lose weight or gain greater income or set some other goal, typically requiring will power and time management skills -- both of which often fade within a few weeks. If God were writing our resolutions, what do you think He would come up with?
Silver bells, tinsel and mistletoe are being replaced with smartphones, tablets, computers and social media. Our youth are catching on to the technology-driven era at younger and younger ages. They pay more attention to screens than people.
By the end, hundreds of grown men and women were consumed by God's desire for them. They were now standing to renew or receive the blessing of their Father's love. By standing they were saying that they wanted to resolve the acceptance issue once and for all.
Holiday cheer can be hard to muster when there's chaos in the air. With the addition of more tasks and less time than usual, 'tis the season that puts a squeeze on our emotions, priorities and finances. Some men paint on a grin and roll through the routine with low expectations. Others face demons from the past, broken families, pressures and circumstances that bring up pain.
A friend has been learning a lot about the Achilles tendon lately. At 47-years-old, locals nicknamed him 'Old School' because he is still able to teach the young guns a few basketball lessons. However, the wear-and-tear from years on the court has started to wear-out the oh-so-critical tendon. So now Old School just feels old and (gulp) has to admit he has a weakness...
After spending a decade on the phones counseling depressed, down, and suicidal people I have come to the conclusion that suicide (in some form) is a thought all men have pondered.
Fear of Ebola is more infectious than the biological virus. Fear of the fever is what's driving our government to contain it. Fear is what's capturing the headlines, and spreading like wildfire.
The hit, made-for-Netflix, series "House of Cards" exhibits how men craving power will don a public mask in order for private gain. It's a story about men living with two faces: a public persona and a private will; an image vs reality; a means to an end.
Men are notorious for nurturing superficial friendships that center around the safer subjects of sports, business, sex and almost anything other than what's most important.
When push comes to shove, are God's men more inclined to represent their team or country in a more energetic manner than their Savior?
I have often thought that if the Devil can't make a man bad he'll make him busy. When I am busy or in a hurry it is impossible for me to have quality relationships with God or people.
For Satan, summer breaks provide ample opportunity to ramp up temptation, distraction, flirtation, and ultimately destruction. For many churches, regular meetings press the pause button and men's groups take a summer break… Wait… They WHAT?
Fatherhood in America is in crisis, yet this Sunday, dads get a token holiday, with the annual hall pass to kick back on their throne of choice and receive gifts, cards, and a few bad ties. But if we step back, and look at the bigger, if not the biggest, picture, to gain God's vision for fatherhood, we might turn Father's Day on its ear and seek to bless our children, instead of receive blessings.
It may seem like a simple question to answer. Then again, culture seems to think hell will be a party for all eternity, while heaven will be a boring time of playing harps, floating on clouds and living without any fun.
The guy sitting across from me is a professing and practicing Christian. He drops by my office unannounced today to talk to me about his new online dating life. Specifically, he wants to talk about the over-willingness of Christian women he has encountered on several of his dates who want to jump right from a very public conversation and vanilla latte at Starbucks to very private whispers and physical exchanges between the sheets back at his place.
Whenever I see people marketing Jesus in a certain way, I just want to come up to ask them about their personal connection with their next door neighbors, or children, or spouses, other family and estranged relatives. Specifically, have they reached them in a meaningful way for Jesus? Are they living a life that attracts others to God, or repels them?
Author Camille Paglia, a self-described "notorious Amazon feminist," recently said about today's gender-bending days "What you're seeing is how a civilization commits suicide" (referring to the demonization of men by aggressive feminism). She added that today's generation has "no models of manhood." It appears that the emotional lava flowing out of the volcanic reaction to broken male culture in the '60s is turning from bright orange to a hardened and desolate landscape of ash. The gender scenery is shifting again.
Are you running for a meeting with Jesus? Or are you running a race that will lead you to eternity without him? When you get to the final ceremony of your life, you will either celebrate with Jesus because you believed in Him, accepted His free gift of grace and love. Or you will feel the sting of regret. There will be no more time for "coulda-shoulda-woulda."