I have to admit that when we found out our second baby was a boy, I was both really excited and incredibly nervous. How was I going to raise a son? Raising up godly boys seemed foreign to me.
The primary way legalism played out in my own personal life was in my practice of taking man's teachings regarding what Biblical womanhood was and superimposing them onto the Scriptures. The result (though I didn't see it at the time) was that I was making the Word of God say something it actually didn't say.
I claim neither the label of "egalitarian" nor the label of "complementarian" for myself. Whether it is the label "egalitarian", "complementarian", "Calvinist", "Arminian", "Baptist" or something else entirely, our boxes, labels, and systems are all man-made.
If you had asked me eleven years ago what Biblical womanhood was, you would have received a far different answer than the one I espouse today. Both egalitarianism and complementarianism are wrong. As my wise father tried to tell me for years, we err when we label ourselves a "this" or a "that."
The truth of the matter is this: as I point out in Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them), the Lord never asked you to be "perfect" for your children. He has simply asked you to be a conduit of the Gospel, pointing your children to Him through your imperfection.
We don't fail so because of a lack of strength or dedication but because of faulty theology.