Pastor Ed and Lisa Young of Fellowship Church in Texas had a special message for their congregation on Mother's Day Sunday to unpack some of the biggest secrets about women that even Sigmund Freud failed to understand, and to explain what true beauty is.
"Is it possible to understand women?" Pastor Young asked his wife, Lisa, as they began the message in their megachurch.
Young said Sigmund Freud, known as the father of psychoanalysis, could not, and quoted him: "The great question that has never been answered and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is, 'What does a woman want?'"
But Freud had a "God gap," the pastor and his wife said.
They shared two things that are crucial in understanding women.
"The better we know God, the better we know ourselves," Lisa said, sharing the first point, and quoted Jeremiah 1:5, which reads, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart."
And when women know themselves, others can also know them better, Pastor Young said.
But how can God be known better? It's the "BPC" principle: Bible, prayer and church, they said.
Prayer, which is having a conversation with God; reading the Bible, which is God's Word and the "unlimited mirror;" and going to church, can help one know God better, Young said.
Lisa shared the second point, saying, "What matters is the matter," and explained that men and women have different brain matter.
When God made Adam and Eve, He didn't make identical twins, but He created them male and female to complement each other, she added.
The word, "helper," in the Book of Genesis doesn't mean a "servant," but "a complement to," she clarified.
When you take your eyes off God, you begin to feel insecure, a feeling that most women struggle with in their lives, and takes us off-track, Lisa said. "Don't let insecurity steal the position that God has for you."
Your boyfriend, or husband or father cannot be a substitute for God in giving you a sense of true security, she added.
When we look at ourselves, it matters what eyes are we looking through. There are four things about how God looks at us, Lisa said.
One, remember that you're forgivable, as God has promised in the Bible, Young said, adding that we can believe we have been forgiven because of the death of Jesus Christ on the cross.
Two, believe also that you're valuable because God sent His only Son to die for you and resurrect for you, he said. Lisa added that if you were the only person in the world, God would still have sent His son to save you.
Three, you're also loveable, Pastor Young said. "We're the object of God's love... I'm loved by the God of this universe, and am made in His image."
Four, "I'm capable," Lisa added. God has a plan and purpose for us, and we are capable, she explained. The only question is if we are available, she added.
"When we see ourselves as God sees us, I think we'll understand the beauty of who we are," Lisa said, adding women often struggle with the issue of beauty.
"All women have the desire to be beautiful," she said, adding that beauty is not what the media or culture says it is. God is the author of beauty.
She read from Proverbs 31:30: "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."
Fear the lord means respecting and understanding God, she explained. "Beauty is understanding who we are."