Last week I sent out an email to my blog subscribers asking them to send me their top questions about sexuality and the Christian faith. I've picked out the 7 most common questions I received and I'm going to answer one per day over the next 7 days resulting in an 7-part series.
Part 1, "Can Someone Be In a Homosexual Relationship and Still Be a Believer?" can be viewed here.
Today's question is: Why does the world say that an unchosen sexual disposition isn't changeable, but an unchosen gender is?
This question actually caught me by surprise. Even as someone who thinks on the topic of sexuality more often than most, the inconsistency between these two lines of thoughts has never crossed my mind.
The message that our culture (not me, but the culture) puts forth is this:
- A homosexual disposition is determined at/before birth and therefore it is something that is good and does not need to change.
- Gender is determined at/before birth, but it is something that should be changed if so desired.
- A person didn't choose their homosexual disposition; therefore God made them that way.
- A person didn't choose their gender, but God didn't make them that way if they don't want to be that way.
- Attempting to change one's sexual disposition is harmful for a person because they're going against the way they are designed.
- Attempting to change one's gender is healthy for a person because they are correcting their mistaken design.
Basically, the world says that God doesn't make mistakes when it comes to gay feelings, but He does make mistakes when it comes to gender.
Our culture's belief system is all jacked up from beginning to end. Not only is there no consistency, but there is no real objective basis for their presumptions. The world's belief system isn't founded on what is really true or what is untrue, but on what it wants.
To put it plainly, the world says that homosexual feelings are God-ordained and unchangeable because they want them to be God-ordained and unchangeable; and they say physical gender is non-God-ordained and changeable because they want it to be non-God-ordained and changeable.
The unbelieving culture views the good aspect of human nature (gender) as something that should be changed if we want it to be, and they view the bad aspect of human nature (sinful inclinations) as something that should never be changed, even if we want it to be. And they don't just advocate for the acceptance of our sinful sexual desires, but also our fallen desires to be prideful, selfish, greedy, lustful, gluttonous and so on. The unbelieving culture's view of the world and human nature is entirely opposite of the biblical, Christian view.
Romans 1 tells us exactly why the world has this messed up, flip-flopped perspective on reality:
"For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. - Romans 1:21-25
The world rejects what is good and embraces what is evil because it has rejected the ultimate reality: God.
We were designed to be worshippers of the God who loves us, but instead we have collectively chosen to "exchange the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things" and "exchange the truth about God for a lie and worship and serve the creature rather than the Creator."
We have refused the kind rule of a good God over our lives and have chosen to live in separation from and rebellion against Him. This idolatry has caused our hearts and minds to be darkened and distorted. We call what is good, evil and what is evil, good. We celebrate the profane and profane the holy. We hate what is pure and love what is filthy. We try to change what shouldn't be changed and to preserve what should be transformed.
The world has always been deceived because it's always been idolatrous. But the good news is that there is a cure! And that cure is for a sincere worship of God to replace a sincere rebellion against God in the hearts of men – and this comes only through the salvation that is in Jesus Christ. In His substitutionary death on behalf of sinful man, Jesus provided both a way for our guilt to be removed and for us to be given a new heart that actually loves God. When we put our faith in the work and Lordship of God's slain Son, our messed up, flip-flopped perspectives on reality begin to unwind and we start to see things as they really are. We begin to call what is good, good and what is evil, evil. Worshipping God causes us to think and operate within true reality, because we are surrendering ourselves to the truest reality.
Believing God by trusting in Jesus is the only means by which we can see the world – and ourselves -rightly.
So it makes sense that the world doesn't make sense. The world doesn't know it's right hand from it's left. They are lost – in the most desperate sense of the word. Let's pray for the world, and specifically the LGBT people that remain entrapped by it; that their eyes would be opened to see the beauty of a saving God who loves them and that they would surrender themselves to Him. It is only then that everything else will begin falling into place.
Tomorrow I'll be tackling the following question: "What would you say to a married man with kids who wants a divorce to pursue a homosexual relationship?"
I'll be posting this series here and to Facebook each day, but if you'd like to receive it by email (and also be able to participate in future surveys, etc.) you can subscribe via email on my website.