After 20 years of marriage, Kirk Franklin says being unfaithful to his wife would be comparable to cheating on God, and advises men not to cheat on their children and the Kingdom of God in search of something "newer."
"Men can be dumb at times, and want what's newer, fresher, or what our other 'head' thinks is better. But to fail Tammy is to fail God. To cheat on Tammy is to cheat on the Kingdom, my children, and even you. Those who trust me to chase Christ with everything I got," Franklin said, according to BET. "I'm not perfect, but I'm still in love with Tammy."
The 46-year-old gospel music recording artist, songwriter and producer revealed that the pair met when they were young. Although Tammy came from a good family, Kirk did not and was challenged to change by his future wife.
"[She's a] prime example of how a good woman can change a man without breaking him down. She didn't compromise her standard but helped me reach it," Franklin recalled. "Every song you've heard over the last 20 years, she wrote it. She was every lyric, every key change spelled her name."
Although Kirk admitted that his marriage was not perfect, he said, "We've seen dark days together, but we saw them, TOGETHER."
In a previous blog for Patheos, Franklin asserted that in order to have a successful marriage, divorce has to take place.
In the blog titled "The Great Divorce" the entertainer explained the importance of divorcing things in life that are holding you back from being sanctified. He recalled being a newlywed and looking at another woman while he was eating at a restaurant with his wife.
"The spirit of ADD attacked my mind, the focus of my eyes left the beautiful bride in front of me and turned to this mean horrible lady who shouldn't have worn such a sexy dress and sweet smelling perfume," Franklin wrote. "Tammy stopped talking as she noticed my attention had turned to the young lady that had passed, began to roll her neck and suck her teeth like only a sista is gifted by God to do."
Instead of causing a scene, Franklin's wife gave him an ultimatum. He recalled her speaking with "the quietness of a lamb, yet the authority of a soldier," while letting him know that she would not allow him to look at both the woman and his wife.
After 20 years of marriage, Franklin chose his wife, Tammy. Still, he recalls the root of the real struggle he faced years ago.
"I had old habits I developed before I understood that salvation and sanctification were two different things and took some old hurtful habits into my marriage: promiscuity, a carnal approach to putting the past behind me, childhood addictions of pornography," Franklin wrote. "Of course, my wife's shoulders were not built for my unhealthy past. I almost crushed her in the beginning of our marriage, because one woman cannot keep up the performance of several. God never intended her to."