"I think he's seeing someone else. My heart says he is but I don't have any proof. I finally asked. Made him mad. Said I was crazy. But I still worry that he is. How can I know if he's having an affair?"
The question comes often from wives and husbands across the USA and other parts of the world. They call us, send us an email, or post a private message on Facebook. Sometimes they tell their story; other times they succinctly state their bewilderment. In their hearts, they feel strongly that their spouses cheat, but their minds waver between conviction and confusion. They do not wish to do damage to their marriages by false accusations, but worry that they are being played as fools. Surfing the Internet for clues of infidelity can create more questions than answers. Some recommendations for determining whether a spouse is unfaithful are ridiculous, some harmful, while others make sense. I suggest a solid grip on reality and a dose of healthy skepticism when reading advice from angry abandoned spouses or from sites selling a product to "catch" a potentially straying spouse.