Tip 4. Seek godly advice from godly people.
Surround yourself with wise friends and spiritual leaders who genuinely care for you, and seek their advice. Connect with your church. Finding a life-long partner is the most important life decision you'll make. Do not let emotion cloud your thinking.
Tip 3. Pray sincerely and specifically.
God is interested in you and your marriage. Put it in God's hands, and let God guide you. Many people struggle in dating — how can you possibly discern your feelings, balance priorities and reject temptation without asking the Holy Spirit for help, wisdom and strength? Without prayer, don't expect dating to end well.
Tip 2. Strive to be as faithful a Christian as you want your partner to be.
Don't just dream up your ideal "good Christian woman" or "good Christian man." Strive to be a faithful Christian first. Make a list of how to you need to grow and change so you can be a good spouse first. Seek to become deeper in faith.
And finally ... the NUMBER ONE tip which is actually a rule that must never be compromised.
Tip 1. "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength." (Mark 12:30)
As theologian John Piper advised, the first rule in dating is the first rule in all of life. "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength." (Mark 12:30)
"You will not truly love anyone else if you do not love God first and most. And no one will truly love you if they do not love God more than they love you."