Honest and transparency
“I think one of the important things is honestly and transparency,” Adrienne said. “When we go through the motions and pretend it’s OK and sweep everything under the rug, we never move forward in our marriages. We need to be honest both with each other and with the Lord.
"There are times in marriage where the love might fade and you don’t have romantic feelings for each other. In those times, I’ve gotten on my knees and said, ‘Lord, I don’t’ feel like I love or like Jeremy but I want to love him well. Help me to forgive, soften my heart.’ So few of us walk in that unconditional love. God will give those things to us if we ask Him.”
“When we were first married, we said, ‘Don’t tell me ‘yes’ and ‘that’s fine’ if you actually don’t feel that way,” Jeremy said. “That’s so key, because if you actually meant ‘no,’ you will resent your spouse for doing what you didn’t want them to do — even though you said it was OK. This breeds dissension and distrust. Don’t expect the other person to read your mind.”