Andy Stanley Apologizes for Saying People Who Go to Small Churches 'Are So Stinkin' Selfish'

Andy Stanley, author and pastor, speaking at Catalyst West event at Mariners Church in Irvine, California on Friday, April 17, 2015. | (Screengrab:

Pastor Andy Stanley issued an apology on social media for a recent sermon in which he said that people who go to a small church "are so stinkin' selfish."

The senior pastor of North Point Community Church in Alpharetta, Georgia, one of the largest churches in the U.S., posted on Twitter on Thursday expressing remorse for his remarks last weekend.

"The negative reaction to the clip from last weekend's message is entirely justified. Heck, even I was offended by what I said! I apologize," tweeted Stanley.

On the last Sunday of February, Stanley delivered a message to his large congregation arguing that large churches were better for a child's Christian development than smaller churches.

Over 70,000 people attended an Easter service at one of North Point Ministries' eight church locations in the Atlanta area on April 19-20, 2014. | (Courtesy of North Point Ministries/Dave Adamson)

"This is one reason why we build big churches. People say 'why do you have to make them so big?' Let me tell you why," reasoned Stanley.

"We want churches to be large enough so that there are enough middle schoolers and high schoolers, that we don't have one youth group with middle school and high school together. We want there to be so many adults that there will be so many middle school and high school kids that we can have two separate environments."

Stanley then went on to criticize adults who prefer to go to a congregation that only has a couple hundred members, calling them "selfish."

"When I hear adults say 'well I don't like a big church. I like about 200, I want to be able to know everybody' I say you are so stinking selfish," argued Stanley.

"You care nothing about the next generation. All you care about is you and your five friends. You don't care about your kids, anybody else's kids."

Stanley's comments garnered controversy, with sites like Pulpit & Pen criticizing Stanley's calls for larger churches as missing other important considerations for joining a church.

"Nevermind if the church is doctrinally sound, nevermind if your kids hear the Gospel preached from the pulpit. They need to go to a large church so 'they can make friends,' and 'go off to college and make friends'," noted one Pulpit & Pen contributor.

"From his tirade against people who prefer smaller, more intimate congregations, it appears that he believes the primary function of the church is friend-making."

Stanley's apology on Twitter has received over 232 retweets and more than 710 likes as of the time of publication.

Ironically, weeks before Stanley argued that smaller churches were bad for Christian youth development, a study was released indicating that smaller churches tend to have more involved membership than large ones.

A study authored by Duke University researcher David Eagle found that the larger the congregation, the less active its membership.

"[There's] a negative relationship between size and the probability of attendance for Conservative, Mainline, and black Protestants and for Catholics in parishes larger than 500 attenders," read the abstract.

"The addition of control variables does not change these patterns. These results support the theory that group cohesion lies at the heart of the size-participation relationship in churches."

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