Key Life Founder Steve Brown: Tullian Tchividjian Confessed Affair to Me But Didn't Take My Advice

Key Life Network founder Steve Brown (L) and former Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church pastor, Tullian Tchividjian (R).
Key Life Network founder Steve Brown (L) and former Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church pastor, Tullian Tchividjian (R). | (Photo: Key Life Network; YouTube)

Steve Brown, founder of Key Life Network, which preaches the "ministry of Jesus is the radical grace of God," said this week Tullian Tchividjian, former Coral Ridge pastor and grandson to evangelist Billy Graham, confessed his adultery to him and he gave him advice that wasn't followed.

"I hate what happened to Tullian's family, Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church, Willow Creek Church, and others who have been hurt. If I knew how to fix it, I would. I've read the reports in the media about the situation and some of the comments about me. I'm quite uncomfortable in defending myself and even more uncomfortable talking with anybody about this situation. However, I do need to say something," Brown began in a post on his website.

The Christian Post previously reported that Tchividjian confessed to engaging in an adulterous affair with a married woman in 2014, which led to him being fired recently from Willow Creek Church in Winter Springs, Florida.

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He landed the job at Willow Creek last September, two months after he resigned from Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church after confessing to another extramarital affair. During that period he filed for divorce from his now ex-wife, Kim, and was deposed of pastoral credentials by the South Florida Presbytery.

Two other elders at Coral Ridge are said to have withheld Tchividjian's 2014 indiscretions after being informed of his failings. At least one of the elders has stepped down because of the controversy. Brown was also counseling Tchividjian at the time.

In his post this week, Brown explained why he didn't betray Tullian's confidence and highlighted things he could have done better.

"First, I've been a sort of father figure to Tullian as well as his confessor. I gave Tullian a lot of advice that he didn't take (but then it's not uncommon for people to ignore my advice)," he said.

"I do not have (and never have had) an official position of direct authority in any of this. I was never on the board of Liberate, and I'm not an elder at either Coral Ridge or Willow Creek. I have seen godly leaders dealing with a sinful, difficult, and complicated situation. I watched them try to follow the teaching of Matthew 18 and do what they thought was right at the time," he continued.

"Second, I have a very high view of confession. For almost fifty years, people have told me their secrets, confessed their sins, and named their failures and mistakes. So far as I know, I have never revealed any of that to anyone but God. (If someone's life were at risk or I believed there were imminent danger, I would change…but that has not happened so far.)," he added.

He explained that confession breaks "the last stronghold of self-justification" and he had served as a safe place for Tchividjian to deal with his sin.

"I believe as Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote, 'since the confession of sin is made in the presence of another Christian, the last stronghold of self-justification is abandoned….In confession there occurs a breakthrough to the cross.' That is and remains my heart's desire in hearing confessions, to point brothers and sisters to the cross, Christ's forgiveness, and radical grace. Radical grace is what changes everything," he wrote.

"If you ever need to tell someone safely about your sins, I'm the guy. I don't talk in my sleep, never tell others, and will go to my grave with more secrets people have told me than you would believe. The church really isn't a very safe place. I wish it was, but it isn't. So most of us hide the reality of who we are, what we've done, and the shame we feel. I wanted people (including pastors) to have at least one place where they could feel safe and could deal with their sin and shame. I was that for Tullian," he continued.

"Should I have done some things differently? Probably. I should have pushed Tullian harder than I did. If I could do it over again, I would not have made assumptions about who knew, among those who should have known, the whole story. I probably should have checked to make sure that my assumptions were accurate. Usually I'm more cynical than I was, and this time I wasn't. It won't happen again," he added before noting, "This is the reason God hates sin."

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