This opinion piece is in response to The Christian Post's recent article, Former Members of Mars Hill Church Plan 'Peaceful Protest' Over Pastor Mark Driscoll's 'Anonymous' Claim.
Much like Mars Hill Church based in Seattle, Westside Christian Fellowship in Southern California arose out of a desperate need to encourage Christians to seek God with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. God has graciously honored our desire and is spreading His Word.
In my case, I was allowed to make most of my mistakes in the secular world before planting a church at age 41. Mark Driscoll was not afforded this luxury - he entered the pulpit in his twenties and had to work through anger, pride, and control (by the way, most church planters struggle with these traits, myself included).
I'm not defending, or criticizing, I don't have enough information to truly speak to the issues on either side, but I want to remind all of us that Christians are fallible and make mistakes. We should consider the total portrait of one's life, character, and ministry and evaluate on that basis. A few poorly chosen statements, angry outbursts, or controlling decisions made over the course of many years shouldn't define a person. One's life and character speak volumes as to the sincerity of his or her ministry. We should extend to others the same grace that we desire and be patient with others.
With that said, here are 5 points to consider:
1. No matter what the endeavor, God must be central. In the case of church planting, men do not call themselves, they become aware of God's calling. Demographic studies and marketing strategies may have their place, and it's good to have a core team with a missional focus, but all of this pales in comparison to the call of God. Only God is able to build, sustain, and edify His church. And He often uses confrontation and exposure to draw us back to Him. (Read more here, Questions to Consider Before Entering the Ministry)
2. Humility cannot be overlooked. C.S. Lewis said that "pride is the last sin to die." Pride works against us and is the number one liability for Christians, churches, and church pastors. After all, we're going to do things "the right way." Jealousy, envy, and bitterness will keep us from fulfilling God's call. Humility is fundamental. He guides the humble and teaches them His way (cf. Psalm 25:9). On the flip, an attitude of constant criticism toward Christian leaders often reveals an inner drive to exalt oneself.
Biblical unity encourages us to go directly to the source when possible. Where are we getting our information about a person, movement, or ministry? Are we going directly to them, and/or reputable sources, or are we looking to smear websites, gossipers, and "heresy hunters" for the answers? Make no mistake…we are heavily influenced by what we read and who we listen to. Make sure they are God-honoring.
3. The fully surrendered life is crucial. Why do many endeavors fail? Why do many church plants fail? The reasons are many, but I believe that much depends on the spiritual life of the person and/or the pastor in regard to humility and brokenness. Prayer is the first sign of a healthy church. I'm not referring to a 5-minute devotional, I'm referring to a deep devotional life focused on seeking God. Churches don't need more marketing plans, demographic studies, or giving campaigns; we need men filled with the Spirit of God. Sermons should not come from pop-psychology or the latest fad; they must come from the prayer closet where God prepares the messengers before we prepare the message.
My encouragement to Pastor Mark would be to allow this experience to break, mold, and shape. It takes broken men to break men. The men who do the most for God are always men of prayer, brokenness, and humility. "Preaching, in one sense, merely discharges the firearm that God has loaded in the silent place" (Calvin Miller). God will often allow difficulties to get our attention.
4. Ask, "Do I have a critical spirit?" This could also translate into a cynical or negative attitude. This is one aspect of Jesus' words, "Judge not, that you be not judged" (Matthew 7:1). If you have a judgmental attitude, you've already turned a deaf ear to God's leading. Ironically, I've noticed that those highly educated in biblical doctrine can often be the most critical, cynical, and negative. We do not practice what we preach. Of all the books I've read, the sermons I've heard, the people I've talked with, and the devastation I've seen firsthand, one common denominator was present: critical, divisive people who do not forgive or release bitterness, anger, and hurt, never experience freedom, happiness, or true restoration. Ephesians 4:31-32 states: "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." Simply stated, bitterness, negativity, and anger will lead you in the wrong direction.
I am deeply saddened by the spiritual condition of many Christians. We love to be armchair quarterbacks and dis pastors and Christian leaders, yet we have no idea of the demands they encounter and the pain they feel. For example, in the last 60-days I lost a young adult in my congregation to a heroine overdose, comforted a wife this week whose husband put a 9mm to his head and pulled the trigger, encouraged a blind woman who is missing most of her jaw and frontal skull from a suicide attempt, led a paraplegic to Christ who was physically abused by his father, sympathized with a man whose wife left him and their children after her third affair, and on and on it goes.
Leaving a church can have social ramifications. Friendships often end when someone leaves. When this happens, new believers and others are frequently baffled and confused. As a result, they start asking questions. Depending on whom they ask, the churches reputation may be damaged by gossip. We should consider how leaving will affect others, and, when possible, leave on good terms without gossiping or criticizing the leadership. This can be difficult in challenging situations because we want people to know why we left. Our sinful tendency is to pull others down. We may think that somehow this makes us look better. If we are truly concerned about the body of Christ, we will hold our tongue. Self-righteousness has no place here. But I'm not referring to sweeping corruption and deception in the church under the rug. Wisdom is needed here.
5. Love is a "choice," not a "feeling." If love is the greatest commandment, it should be our first priority. Love hopes for and believes the best in others...it is demonstrated through our actions and our words. Strive to develop the type of love that protects and defends others. For instance, is a protest the best way to handle this issue? Why not go to the leadership of Mars Hill privately with a list of those who have been offended. Set up a time (in a non-threatening atmosphere) and allow both sides to share with the goal being restoration, renewal, and repentance.
Stop yourself when you're tempted to gossip or belittle others, and turn the conversation if someone is taking you in that direction. The Bible is clear: If you have not love, it profits you nothing (cf. 1 Corinthians 13:3). You can be well read in all 66 books of the Bible, preach as well as Whitefield, Moody, and Spurgeon, and have a Ph.D. in theology, but if you don't have love, you have nothing. Make love, forgiveness, and unity top priorities. They will not rise to that level on their own.